Monáe's Musings | Fabulous and Fortunate Podcast

In this week’s episode of Fabulous and Fortunate, I cracked open the conversation about sexiness—what it really is, how we embody it, and why so many of us have been conditioned to think it’s something external. We’ve been sold this idea that sexiness is about the right dress, the right pose, the right amount of attention. But true sexiness? It’s an energy. It’s the way you move through the world when you’re feeling fully in yourself, when you’re not performing but simply being. And I know firsthand that when you start seeing sexiness as an inner glow rather than a surface-level aesthetic, it changes everything. When was the last time you felt sexy? When was the last time you felt sensual?

So many of us—especially as women—have had moments where we’ve dimmed our own light, whether it’s to avoid judgment, to stay “appropriate,” or because we weren’t feeling desirable enough to claim it. But sexiness isn’t about approval or perfection. It’s not about waiting for someone else to acknowledge it before you do. It’s about self-trust, about owning your energy no matter what you’re wearing (or not wearing). In the episode, I talked about how I had to unlearn the belief that confidence was something I had to “earn” through external validation. Instead, I learned to cultivate it from within, and let me tell you—when you’re in that frequency, it’s magnetic.

This episode was really a reminder that sexiness is about liberation. It’s about feeling good in your body, moving with intention, and showing up in your life in a way that feels deliciously unapologetic. Whether you’re in sweats, a silk slip, or nothing at all, your sexiness is yours to own. If you haven’t listened yet, go check it out on Apple or Spotify—because this is the kind of conversation that will have you walking just a little different, carrying yourself just a little higher, and remembering that sexiness was never something you had to chase. It’s been yours all along. I ask again, when was the last time you felt sexy?